No, this isn’t an update and I’m truly sorry for it. I know that you guys have been waiting patiently (mostly) for one.
I am going on a hiatus until all of the issues in my life have either been resolved or have been at least somewhat lessened. I was a hit and run victim last year while I was walking on campus a few weeks before finals week. I am alive (obviously) and escaped without permanent injuries (I am FINALLY able to walk without the brace), but I was left with 50K in medical bills, that is not even counting the phys. rehab and any additional medical care I received post emergency room.
The police still haven’t even charged the guy who hit me and he doesn’t have car insurance so all of the bills have been paid by my insurance which only pays a portion. The police told me that if me and the other victims can’t ID him then he goes free without any charges. He could get away with almost killing me and taking months of my life.
Now that the physical pain is healed – not the emotional or psychological pain at being left for dead in the middle of the road and the horror I experienced at not being able to feel my legs after impact; I still have nightmares about being paralyzed – I thought that maybe I could return to writing fanfiction to get some happiness, but I can’t.
A person who I’m very close to is extremely dependent on alcohol to the point that if she quits, the detox process will likely kill her. Her liver has started shutting down and she isn’t even thirty yet. Her deadbeat asshole husband who encouraged her to drink and was physically and emotionally abusive has decided to divorce her, which would be great except for the fact that he wants to ruin her life. He calls her and leaves her messages about how she is worthless and how no one will want her. He WAITED and filed for divorce on a day that was very special to her just to ruin it. That asshole made her emotionally dependent on him and she feels like she can’t live without him.
I’ve tried to remind her that we love her and no one cares what he thinks, but it isn’t working. After a message that sounded like a goodbye, I rushed to see her and I spent hours trying to talk her down from committing suicide and trying to convince her to see some professional help. I know alcohol increases suicidal and depressive thoughts, but she is so dependent on it that she can’t even function without it. I have been trying to find some clinics or something, but she feels like she has nothing to live for even though she is a beautiful and extremely successful woman (she is one of the best in her field). None of us know what to do because we haven’t experienced this personally and are afraid to make it worse.
If anyone here has some advice or has dealt with something similar please help.